I have noticed recently that working in a private home some things have started to come naturally to me that I had only noticed in people when I was a kid. For example the ability to never forget that “we are a guest in a home” is the in the most important thing in the world. Many chefs just don’t have this in them. They think the world revolves around them but not here, certainly not in the Hamptons. You could be a big chef and a big cheese, the worst offenders are the ACF chefs. They are used to working in a hospital, school or facility with their big white chef’s jacket with their name and title embroidered jacket. When they come into a home they are easily outweighed by a foreign housekeeper that has the lady of the home’s ear and must take orders from someone they consider far below them. That is the way it is. Many think they are “the chef” and can establish their authority but that is just not the case. The best way to get around this is do your job and keep your mouth shut. Also respect all your co workers as equal. Many times a principal or the principals family will come in and ask for something for the future and say, Pete, you know I like thinly sliced carrots in my crudite but not now. Just remember for the next time! What many chefs will do is say okay and that is for the next time, I don’t have to worry about that now, whew! However what they are really saying is, ‘I want those damn carrots in my crudite right now!” And while I used to hold for the next time, these days I naturally jump to fridge and say “thats no problem let me get you so of those carrots right now” and do as they say. This jump to action with politeness is what will get you hired back everytime rather then look at poor me, I’m the chef in a chef suit and I work so hard but I can to save it to the next time. No you won’t, do be a schmuck! Just do your work and don’t be above anyone else and you will be asked back again and again.